4 Signs You’re Arguing With a Psychopath

Psychopaths are an interesting breed, to say the least.
They make up some of the most successful and influential people in the world, from CEOs to corporate lawyers. While many psychopaths benefit society in one way or another, you certainly wouldn’t be too happy around one, much less arguing with one.
However, how can you tell? How can you know for a fact that you are arguing with a psychopath?
Here are four clues.

1. They play the victim despite having the upper hand


Psychopathic people can have a hard time 
expressing empathy. One of the ways they might work around this is by adopting the hardships of others and painting themselves into a world of misfortune far out of the range of even their most miserable days.
This can pop up in an argument with a psychopath when they attempt to make you feel guilty or sorry for them, despite them having the clear upper hand.

2. Their mood changes rapidly


Psychopaths can go from being happy to being in a deep rage almost at the drop of the hat – whatever puts them in the lead of an argument. This can also occur in someone with borderline personality disorder, which is believed by some to result in a similar lack of empathy. However, borderline personality disorder is completely different.

3. They are condescending


This condescending behavior is one type of emotional abuse psychopaths unleash on those around them. When combined with their charm and often attractive personal traits, this puts the psychopath in a position where you might begin to feel bad about yourself, as they talk down to you.

4. They cannot own their mistakes

Related to the first point, psychopaths love to play the victim – even when they are the culprit. Steve Jobs – a presumed psychopath himself – notoriously denied that he had a premarital child, Lisa, in the early days of Apple. Just like that. He denied the birth of a human being and insisted the child was not his until years later.

As a side note, psychopaths and sociopaths are easily confused.

To find out the difference, check out the video below!


source and courtesy: David Wolfe

Now Everyone Can Cook Chicken With KFC’s Secret Recipe

For almost 67 years (since 1940), the KFC company carefully kept their chicken recipe secret. Recently, the Chicago Tribune newspaper published it. The newspaper got the original recipe of ’11 herbs and spices’ from Colonel Sanders’s nephew. The man found it in the notes of the second wife of the KFC founder.
Here is the legendary recipe that allows you to cook delicious chicken.
Cooking time: 30 minutes
Soaking time: 20-30 minutes
Frying time: 15-18 minutes
Servings: 4
Ingredients:
  • 2 cups of flour
  • 2/3 tablespoon of salt
  • 1/2 tablespoon of dried thyme
  • 1/2 tablespoon of dried basil
  • 1/3 tablespoon of dried marjoram
  • 1 tablespoon of celery salt
  • 1 tablespoon of ground black pepper
  • 1 tablespoon of dry mustard
  • 4 tablespoons of bell pepper powder
  • 2 tablespoons of garlic salt
  • 1 tablespoon of ground ginger
  • 3 tablespoons of ground white pepper
  • 1 cup of low-fat cream
  • 1 beaten egg
  • 1 sliced chicken; the fillet part should be additionally cut into halves for more even frying
  • canola oil
  • How to make it:
    1. Mix the flour and all of the spices in a cup.
    2. Take another cup and mix the egg with the low-fat cream. Soak the chicken pieces in the mixture of cream and egg at room temperature for 20-30 minutes.
    3. Take the chicken pieces out of the cream, and wait until the excess drips off. Dip the chicken pieces into the mixture of flour and spices until the pieces are covered. Shake off the excess. Put the chicken pieces on a rack, and leave for 20 minutes.
    4. While you are waiting for the chicken to be ready for frying, pour 7-8 cm of oil into a pot with thick high sides (or you can use a Dutch oven), and heat over medium-high heat to 175°C (347°F). Use a kitchen thermometer to monitor the temperature. When it reaches 175°C, reduce the heat to medium. Fry 3-4 chicken pieces until they have a golden brown crust (15-18 minutes), turning them over just once. Lay the cooked chicken on a plate covered with paper towels.

It’s remarkable that this recipe is considered to be one of the most valuable commercial secrets in the field of nutrition. Its copy with Sanders’s autograph on it is kept in a safety box in the company’s headquarters in Louisville, Kentucky.

source and courtesy: Bright Side

7 Things Not To Do When You First Wake Up

There's no one morning routine that works for everyone.
Maybe yours involves reading the news, or guzzling water, or dancing to pop music in your underwear. No judgment.
But there are certain morning mistakes that can set the stage for an unproductive, unenjoyable rest of the day.
To find out what those mistakes are, we checked out what scientists and other experts had to say about making the most (and the least) of the first few minutes after you wake up.
Below, we've rounded up seven common wake-up behaviors that you'll want to avoid.

1. Hit the snooze button
Sometimes (OK, all the time) your alarm goes off and you are just not ready to face the day yet. But resist the temptation to put off the inevitable by five or 10 minutes. 
As sleep expert Timothy Morgenthaler told Business Insider's Jessica Orwig, "Most sleep specialists think that snooze alarms are not a good idea."
That's partly because, if you fall back into a deep sleep after you hit the snooze button, you're entering a sleep cycle you definitely won't be able to finish. So you'll likely wake up groggy instead of refreshed.
A better bet? Figure out how much sleep you need on a nightly basis and make sure to get that amount.

2. Stay curled up
So you avoided the snooze (congrats!) and now you're lying awake in bed. Use this time to make yourself as big as possible -- physically.
According to Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy, stretching out wide is a way to build confidence as you launch into your day.
Though it's impossible to say whether people feel good because they stretch out or vice versa, Cuddy explained during a talk at New York's 92Y that the people who wake up with their arms in a V "are super happy, like annoyingly happy."
By contrast, she said there's some preliminary evidence that people who wake up in a fetal ball "wake up much more stressed out."

3. Check email
If you sleep near your phone (and most Americans do), it's easy to roll over and start mindlessly scrolling through your inbox.
Don't do it.
As Julie Morgenstern, author of the book "Never Check Email in the Morning," told The Huffington Post, if you start your morning this way, "you'll never recover."
"Those requests and those interruptions and those unexpected surprises and those reminders and problems are endless," she said. "There is very little that cannot wait a minimum of 59 minutes."
Instead, Morgenstern suggests that if you're going to do some work, make it a project that requires considerable focus.

4. Leave your bed unmade
Why make your bed? After all, you're just going to mess it up when you sleep in it later.
True. But according to Charles Duhigg, author of "The Power of Habit" and "Smarter Faster Better," making your bed is associated with increased productivity throughout the rest of the day.
Again, it's unclear whether making your bed causes you to be more productive or if super-organized people are more likely to make their bed.
But Duhigg writes that making your bed is a "keystone habit" that can spark "chain reactions that help other good habits take hold."

5. Drink coffee
If you think you can't function until you've downed a cup of joe, think again.
Your body naturally produces higher amounts of the stress hormone cortisol, which regulates energy, between 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. So for most people, the best time to drink coffee is after 9:30 a.m.
If you consume caffeine before then, your body will start adjusting by producing less cortisol in the early morning -- meaning you'll be creating the problem you fear.

6. Get ready in the dark
Keeping the lights off and the shades down might seem like a softer way to transition into the day.
Yet your internal body clock is designed to be sensitive to light and darkness, Natalie Dautovich of the National Sleep Foundation told The Huffington Post. So getting ready in the dark could signal to your body that it's still nighttime and could make you feel even groggier.
If it's still dark outside when you wake up, Dautovich recommends turning on a strong light, like the ones used to treat seasonal affective disorder.

7. Play it by ear
Maybe you'll sip some water. Maybe you'll listen to some tunes. Maybe you'll call a friend.
These activities, in and of themselves, are fine -- but it's best if you incorporate them into some kind of routine. As in: Wake up, drink water while listening to music, get dressed, and call a friend on the way to the train.
Scientists say our willpower is limited, and when we expend it early on in the day trying to decide what to do next, we have less left later in the day when we need to concentrate on work.
Instead, let your brain run on automatic in the morning and conserve those mental resources for when you really need them.

source and courtesy: independent.co.uk

This ONE Juice Helps Stop Snoring and Sleep Apnea

The act of sleeping comprises about one-third of our life. It’s not just about time, but also the fact that sleeping affects nearly everything that we need to do, and the quality of things that we want to do. When thought of in this context – that quality of sleep affects quality of life – we’re more apt to take sleep seriously.
Snoring is a period of loud breathing, snorting or grunting sounds made when one sleeps. If we have a sleeping partner, odds are that snoring frequently disrupts their ability to sleep, which in turn affects things that they need or want to do (we’re guessing they probably made you aware of it by now!)
As defined by the National Heart Lung and Blood Institute, Sleep Apnea is “a common disorder which you have one or more pauses in breathing or shallow breaths while you sleep.” Such disruptions in breathing may last anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes, and may occur 30 times or more in an hour. Unsurprisingly, this condition results in a poor quality of sleep and leads to increased episodes of daytime sleepiness.
Currently, there are all sorts of medications and contraptions that are designed to relieve snoring. The same can be said for sleep apnea. However, it is always best to utilize natural solutions, as they almost always are better received by the body.

THIS ONE JUICE HELPS STOP SNORING AND SLEEP APNEA

Juicing has become a common method for people to achieve various health outcomes, from supplementing vitamins and nutrients to counteracting diagnosed health conditions. The ingredients used in juicing are often raw and unmodified (unadulterated), which accomplishes two things: (1) it’s easier to digest and (2) it allows for maximum nutritional benefits (processed foods often undergo mechanisms that subtract from the food’s nutritional value.) Generally, such juices are predominantly made of raw fruits and vegetables.
With that said, a simple juice concoction exists that reduces the effects of snoring and sleep apnea. The premise behind this mixture is to eliminate excess mucus, which is a primary factor in symptoms of snoring and sleep apnea.
The ingredients and the preparation are very simple, although it is recommended that the products included in the mix are of the organic, raw variety for the reasons mentioned in the previous paragraph. It is also helpful to have a juicing machine, as these devices will blend the mixture more thoroughly.
Here are the ingredients that you’ll need (quantities are for 1 serving):
– 2 Apples (of any preferred type)
– 2 Carrots
– ¼ of a Lemon
– 1 inch stick of ginger
Simply use a juicing machine, such as a NutriBullet, to combine and thoroughly blend the ingredients. Sans a juicing machine, a traditional blending machine will suffice.
In addition to this and other healthy diet options, certain lifestyle changes can relieve the symptoms of both snoring and sleep apnea. In terms of diet, it is important to minimize or (preferably) eliminate alcohol because of its suppressive effect on the central nervous system.
For those that smoke, quitting this habit will likely ease an assortment of symptoms. The reason is obvious: smoking impairs the lungs and blood vessels, which restricts airflow produced by the lungs. The adverse health effects of smoking are both short and long-term in nature. In addition, quitting smoking results in near-immediate improvement in the ability to breathe.
It is important to maintain a healthy weight for a multitude of reasons, including the suppression of snoring and sleep apnea symptoms. As this relates to sleep apnea, individuals that are overweight are more likely to get the disorder. According to Cedars-Sinai, those will store fat and tissue around the neck can apply restrictive pressure on the airway or tongue.
Some other pieces of advice:
– Avoid eating too much chocolate
– Eat fried food in small amounts, or eliminate it completely
– Eat at least five servings of fruits and vegetables daily
– Eliminate or limit the amount of processed foods
– Eliminate or limit the amount of starched, sugar-laden foods
– Establish a set sleeping routine. Go to bed at and wake up at the same time every day 
Lifestyle changes are necessary for minimizing the symptoms of snoring and sleep apnea. Be cognizant of what is put into your body and remain steadfast in your sleeping routines. Eat adequate amounts of raw fruits and vegetables on a daily basis. Seek support if you desire to stop smoking or drinking alcohol.
source and courtesy: powerofpositivity.com

5 Ways to Naturally Increase Serotonin in Your Brain

Serotonin is a chemical that helps to relay signals from one area of the brain to another, acting as a neurotransmitter. It influences a variety of psychological and physical functions, including mood, sexual desire and function, appetite, sleep, memory, learning, temperature regulation and even some behaviors. Many researchers believe that an imbalance in serotonin levels can greatly influence mood, leading to obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, panic, excess anger or depression.
Boosting serotonin levels is associated with a positive increase in mood and behavior, and you don’t need anti-depressants or other pharmaceuticals to do it! It’s entirely possible to naturally increase this vital brain chemical to help put a little pep back in your step. Here are five ways to enhance your physical and mental health by increasing serotonin levels in your brain:

1. Enrich Your Diet With B Vitamins

Vitamin B6 aids in both the development and the function of serotonin in the brain. For those who are prone to stress, making sure to get enough B Vitamins can have a positive effect on stress levels. Vitamin B6 and Vitamin B12 are effective in lessening depression symptoms. According to a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, adults that were diagnosed with depression or were experiencing depression-like symptoms improved after supplementing their diets with B Vitamins. Supplement forms of B Vitamins are available, but making sure to get plenty B Vitamins in your diet can keep you happy and healthy.

2. Try 5-HTP

5-HTP or 5-Hydroxytryptophan is a naturally-occurring amino acid that is extracted from the seeds of a woody climbing shrub native to West Africa called the Griffonia simplicifolia plant. It converts into serotonin with the help of Vitamin B6, and has been found effective in treating anxiety, depression, insomnia and hypertension. Just be sure to consult with a health care professional before starting any supplementation.

3. Embrace Sunshine

Have you ever noticed an improvement in your mood on a sunny day? Sunlight is not only the body’s best natural source of Vitamin D, it also allows serotonin levels to remain high for a natural mood-boost that reduces your risk of developing Seasonal Affective Disorder and depression. Even on a chilly day, sunlight can have a positive effect on both the body and the mind.

4. Treat Yourself to a Massage

You already know that getting a massage feels great, but did you know that it has a direct effect on your serotonin levels? Massages are effective in reducing cortisol, the stress hormone that actively blocks the production of serotonin. When cortisol is inhibited, the brain is in an optimal state to produce serotonin. Massage therapy can also increase the production of the “reward pleasure” brain chemical known as dopamine.

5. Meditate

There are numerous forms of meditation, and each one helps to increase the production of serotonin in the brain. Similar to massage therapy, meditation reduces the levels of cortisol in the brain and invokes a relaxation response. Lower stress levels can allow for an increase in serotonin and provide an instant mood-boost.
For more info on increasing serotonin, take a look at the video below:

And here’s a cute video to keep you happy!

references:
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/increase-serotonin-brain/
http://www.herbwisdom.com/herb-5-htp.html
http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/92/2/269.full
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/basics/definition/con-20021047
source and courtesy: David Wolfe

This Optical Illusion Reveals How Stressed You Are in 2 Seconds!

When you think your day’s going just fine, it’s there, creeping up behind you.
When you’re snuggled in front of that television and your brain’s gearing up to remind you about that major assignment due the next day, it’s there, getting ready to pounce.
It comes to us all, like death and taxes. In fact, it also comes with death and taxes.
I’m talking, of course, about our good old friend stress!
The statistics surrounding stress actually indicate an alarming epidemic in America. According to Stress.org, 44% of Americans are more stressed out than they were 5 years ago. The organization also says work- related stress is to blame for 10% of all strokes as well as 60% of all illnesses and diseases.
While you might think obesity is America’s biggest problem, consider that 3 out of 4 doctor visits are for stress-related illnesses. That pesky little feeling is responsible for $300 billion in medical bills and lost productivity, $100 billion more than what obesity costs the nation.
Do you know how to tell how stressed you are? There are the normal signs you’re probably familiar with, like headaches, muscle tension, chest pain and upset stomach. But did you know there’s a “fun” way to check your stress level?
Japanese psychiatrist Akioshi Kitaoka created a set of images designed to help viewers of the images determine their state of mind.
Essentially, if you look at these images and they appear to be still, you are relaxed. If they are moving slowly, you’re a tad stressed. If they’re really moving around, you’re super stressed and should probably take it easy.
Right now, the images appear to be moving very slowly for me, which matches the way I feel.
Of course, I wouldn’t go rushing to the hospital or jump to any hard medical conclusions based on these results but it can be a good way to tell if it’s time for you to sit down and take a few deep breaths.

Here are some more illusions to test your stress level with!




So? How stressed are you?


source and courtesy: David Wolfe

11 Signs Your Relationship Is Making You Depressed

While no one can make you depressed, the conditions and limitations that you experience in your relationship can create a negative environment that contribute to a negative mood. Knowing the signs that your relationship is on a negative downturn can help you to make a choice to make a change to a life of positivity.

11 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS MAKING YOU DEPRESSED

1. YOU HAVE NO SAY IN WHAT HAPPENS FROM DAY TO DAY

Lacking control over what happens in your relationship every day is an indication that your partner is exerting more than their fair share of control. Each of you should have an equal say in distribution of chores, choice of activities, monetary decisions, etc.

2. YOU FEAR YOUR PARTNER’S REACTION

Anger from your partner can make you withdraw even further into isolation, which is a sign of depression. Avoiding communication with your partner will not fix the depressed feelings that you are having, but will only make them worse.

3. YOU ARE DEPENDENT ON YOUR PARTNER

Researchers at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign looked at the impact that depression has on relationships. Although the researchers looked at people who had already been diagnosed with depression and were open about it with their partners, their findings revealed 8 negative factors that can be used as signs of depression.
8 negative effects of depression on a relationship:
* emotional toll
* romance and sexual intimacy problems
* communication problems
* isolation
* lack of energy/motivation
* dependence on the relationship
* lack of understanding
* uncertainty

4. YOU FEEL THE BURDEN OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Your relationship rests like a weight on your chest, making you feel immobilized and unable to leave, move, or change things for the better. It takes great inner courage and strength to recognize the relationship that is making you depressed and resolve to move on.

5. YOU’VE WITHDRAWN FROM SOCIAL ACTIVITIES

Researchers at the University of Michigan looked at risk factors for depression in romantic relationships and found that a lack of social support outside of the partnership was a major influencing factor on whether one partner experienced symptoms of depression. Lack of social support can include a lack of support from family members as well.
You may feel that your partner doesn’t want you to see your friends, but doing so is important to your mental health. Don’t allow your relationship to make you feel more depressed by avoiding the friends and family members who can help you to work through your feelings about your partner.

6. YOU HAVE A DESIRE TO FIX THINGS, BUT NO ENERGY TO DO SO

You wish for a more happy, positive relationship with your partner, but the literal energy that it takes to work on your problems is not within your reach. Depression can often lead to a lack of physical energy that feels like you are unable to act, even if it is going to make things better.

7. YOU CONTRIBUTE MORE THAN YOUR PARTNER DOES TO THE RELATIONSHIP

Perhaps you do more of the domestic work than your partner does, or you contribute more financially. There is sometimes an unequal distribution of work in a relationship, but it will only be making you feel depressed if you are resentful of the imbalance and unable to change it.

8. YOU CAN’T REMEMBER THE LAST TIME YOU AND YOUR PARTNER LAUGHED TOGETHER

If you were experiencing more joy and positive emotions in your relationship, you wouldn’t be wondering if your relationship is making you depressed. Happiness is visible in the number of smiles and the amount of laughter shared by loving partners. If you are missing this key positive emotional element, you may be feeling depressed.

9. YOU WORRY ABOUT THE FUTURE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

When you feel like your relationship is making you depressed, you can feel hopeless about the future. Not being able to see how your relationship leads to a happy ending can make you sick with worry, stress, and anxiety, and the hopelessness can make you also feel depressed.

10. YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T LISTEN

Communication is so important to a healthy romantic partnership. Lacking a willing ear to listen when you have a concern can feel isolating and can make you feel depressed. Your partner should be paying attention to you when you speak, but if they don’t, a lack of listening can feel like rejection from your partner, which leads to negative feelings of depression.

11. YOU ARE SEEKING SOMEONE TO TALK TO OUTSIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Emotional cheating is one way to look at this, but confiding in someone else about how you feel about your relationship issues is a sign that you aren’t able to communicate with your partner, and it is making you depressed.
source and courtesy: Power of Posititvity

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