One Question To Ask Yourself Everyday To Reduce Stress And Experience More Love

It’s not you it’s….no wait, in this instance it IS you. Or rather it’s YOUR perception. The way that you see your world shapes your world. It’s an incredible and simple superpower that we all fall victim to forgetting we have. When we forget that we shape our reality we slip into victim mode, it can take the smallest trigger to start that nasty gal rolling, and from this viewpoint, everything looks grim.

What Else Can Go Wrong?

Have you ever had one of those days that feels like the world is against you? You feel jinxed or cursed, and no matter how hard you try, it seems like everything and everyone is set to hurt or upset or disappoint you? These periods can be like quick-sand and can drag you down and continue for weeks, months and even years.

The Good News

The good news is that you can escape this gloomy trap in under a minute. Voila!

The Bad News

The bad news is that you’ll have to take responsibility for it first. Ouch! Yes, this is mostly (if not all) of your own making. Your ego might not like to admit that you have slipped on the victim-hat, but it’s essential that you do admit it to yourself. It’s nothing to be ashamed of – we all wear the hat at one time or another, the secret is noticing when it’s on our heads again and then promptly removing it.

More Good News

Your current mood is a result of your thoughts, your thoughts are your creations and thus under your power! You can choose to change them, in fact you might even say it’s your responsibility to, for your own great good and of those around you too. The ‘More Good News’ is that it’s time to take that power back! How, you might ask…read on!

The Question Is The Answer

The moment you realize that everything has turned a shade of grey, that it feels like the barista at your local coffee shop is purposely getting your order wrong, you spill your lunch down your white outfit before an important meeting, that every car on the road is trying to cut you off, or that all the bills come in the mail at once, it’s time to act! Ask yourself (aloud and in a mirror if you dare!) this question:
“How is this not about me?”

The Big Secret

The secret behind this question and your superhero power is that it reminds ourselves that most, if not all, of the things that we perceive are acting against us are in fact completely unaware of our existence. And even those people that are addressing us directly, even our nearest and dearest, are more than likely more concerned with their own needs and wants and not aware of your dismay.
If your best friend is verbally attacking you, shaming you or making you feel bad about yourself, their rant is not about you at all, but about something they are experiencing within themselves that might have been triggered by your involvement.
The guy that just cut you off dangerously in traffic did not do so because he hates you, he’s stuck in his own self-centered thought spiral.
The utilities companies did not band together to ensure they ruined your day by delivering their bills all at the same time.
If it feels like it’s one stroke of bad luck after another, you might be too preoccupied with counting these negative occurrences that you’re failing to see all the tiny miracles happening about you at the same time. This can be the most wondrous and freeing realization – that it’s not about you, it’s not personal, and better yet, if it’s not about you (and it isn’t) then it’s not your responsibility nor concern! You can CHOOSE how you react and in doing so can CHOOSE love and light in place of pain and stress.
I know, I know…
One final thought, I know this sounds like woo-woo, easier-said-than-done advice, especially when you’re in the middle of a low spell. So may I ask of you that you simply try it for one day. When you feel the pull of the victim-hat, ask yourself, “How is this not about me?” There’s no magic cure for all the pain we experience in our lives, but even in our lowest lows (the end of a relationship, the death of a loved one) you will be pleasantly surprised by how much we can avoid simply by choosing to change the framework of how we are thinking about it, making a different choice in how we will engage with the reality before us.
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