THIS Is The Single Biggest Regret People Have In Their Lives

To some extent or another we all have them. Regrets riddle everyone's past with a thoroughness only hindsight would think fair.
Sometimes we can swallow the negativity and learn a hard truth in earnest. More commonly we find ourselves never truly acknowledging the breadth of the past scenario.

To do so would mean to admit the simple root of almost all regrets: a lack of sincere action and effort.

It's so easy to say, 'I'll try harder next time', 'I'll travel after I save more money', or 'It probably wouldn't have worked out anyway.' This 'easy path' will eat up our precious time before we know it, and leave us with unfurnished dreams and tame versions of our once robust dreams.
Not chasing our desires, living in fractions instead of multiples, trading comfort and stability for the thrills of hard won experience and fulfillment; this is how dreams get differed and regrets are given room to fester. 

Spend less time rationalizing and justifying.

The most profound and immediately helpful thing you can do is remove the burden of being or desiring perfection. The idea of a 'perfect person' is broadly described and a constantly shifting idea. Even you ever caught it, it would only be for a glance. Not enough of an experience to feel emotionally fulfilled. You would regret all the time and sacrifices, for not even a full embrace with our goal.
We can't shield ourselves from our fears or possibilities. Have faith in your ability to grow and maneuver through life. The more we focus on our fears the more likely they are to manifest. Focus on nurturing positive and a diverse set of skills for dealing with stress, life, death and any other occurrence you feel you might encounter.

6 Simple Tips To Remove Negative Energy From Your Home

Our homes and workplaces should be safe places for us to rest and create. Having a place where you feel comfortable and empowered to do what you feel is right, is crucial for our mental and spiritual health. Your work place shouldn't be a jail cell, but a platform for you to express and create aspects.
These spaces can trap negative energy or sometimes create negative energy. This isn't productive or healthy. Below are some ways to safeguard your space and transform energies to your preference.

1. Clapping With Intention

Energy can get stuck in corners, on shelves, above stairs and all around. To breathe life into your area, walk around sensing stagnant or negative energy. When you feel that presence clap your hands and focus on positive, productive formations.

2. Designate Spaces For Specific Purposes

You should try to separate your space into action and intention specific areas. For example, your bedroom is for sleeping and resting, so remove any televisions, desks, or any non sleep related items. You should try to streamline the spaces, to keep a more focused energy in each place.

3. Burn Herbs

Go to a health store or an oriental shop and buy some sage bundles or incense. Sage, in particular, is great for warding off negative energy, spirits and actively creates positive energy. Different types of incense change negative energies into various potential energies.
First open the windows and doors and waft the burning herbs in every room, hallway, and around the property. After a while or whenever you feel it is appropriate, close the windows and doors. The next day do the same ritual but leave the windows and doors shut.

4. Keep It Clean

Your space doesn't have to be spotless, but it should never be disgusting or unorganized for long periods. Never leave dirty dishes or half eaten food anywhere but the sink. Clutter and organically dirty areas eat up positive energy and create a feeling of chaos.

5. Buy Plants And Put Them Everywhere

Plants live by taking toxins in the air and turning it into air. They only need sunlight and water to produce healthy and productive vibes. If you aren't blessed with a green thumb try to get plants that are hardy and don't need supervision. Be sure to clear away any dead leaves and branches. If your plant dies be sure to remove it quickly. A dead plant will be a focus point for negativity and it will consume the positive energy in the air.

6. Rearrange, Rearrange, Rearrange

Move the furniture in your house around once a month at least. This will help you keep track of what you need and don't use. Throw away or donate unwanted items. Superfluous items drain productive and positive energy. As you move things around, play around with the space and see how each arrangement benefits or hinders your space's positivity and productivity.

New Research Says Coconut Oil Is Better Than Any Toothpaste

At the Athlone Institute of Technology in Ireland, researchers have studied the compared effects of both coconut oil and toothpaste inside of the mouth to see which one had the most beneficial results.
What they had discovered is that just by taking a spoonful of coconut oil instead of using toothpaste can have a lot more of an effect on the hygiene in your mouth.
How exactly does coconut oil defeat toothpaste? For starters, coconut oil has the ability to prevent tooth decay better than any brand mouthwash/toothpaste with fluoride you could find in your local grocery store. Also, there are no side effects at all when using coconut oil simply for the fact that it is a natural substance, containing no chemicals or anything foreign words you would have to worry about.
Furthermore, coconut oil has been proven to kill common strains of bacteria found in your mouth, much better than toothpaste ever could, including the elimination of some certain harmful strains referred to as Candida albicans.
If you are just now getting into the coconut oil craze that everyone is so fond of lately, it's important that you know that coconut oil has been used for a variety of other simple fixes for daily routines such as brushing your teeth. Coconut oil can be used in beauty products, cooking, home remedies, first aid solutions, hair solutions, etc. It goes well with just about anything that is wrong in your life.
The study recommends that you use only a spoonful of coconut oil when brushing your teeth. The process is called "oil pulling" which essentially means that you swish the coconut oil around in your mouth, or until melts, for a bout 30 minutes and then spit out into the sink. Make sure you do not swallow the oil as to avoid consuming all of the nasty junk it just got done removing from your teeth.

4 Common Habits That Make You Unattractive And You Don't Notice

"Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful." Thich Nhat Hanh
Our physical selves are reflections of our true selves. If we work to stay emotionally and mentally balanced and strong, it has the same effect on our appearance as weightlifting or running.
Beauty is something everyone is only a honest conversation and a smile away from. When we smile out of joy, it is different than when we smile for a camera. We might not all be fashionable or trendy, but the expression of inner happiness and love is timeless and can not be recreated.
Below are a few of the behaviors and thoughts that are eliminating your beauty. These formations sneak into our life and give us frowns and fatigue. This leads to wrinkles and regrets, once you have these they are hard to get rid of. Proactive action is a better form of treatment. You deserve to be as happy and radiant as you can be!

1.Everything's A Competition With You

You feel compelled to compare yourself to everyone else. All that matters is that you are being viewed in a more favorable light than someone else or that you are simply being seen. No one else is looking at life the same as you, the glory and recognition you seek, is in your head. You can tell when this urge is bringing out your ugly side when the prize and who the technical winner is no longer matters.
If you continue to try to one up the people in your life, you will find yourself alone after a short while. Since the emphasis is not on the betterment of the 'competitors' or marking a benchmark event, you are aiming to make everyone around you a 'loser'. Being a perpetual 'loser' is an unfair cost to be anyone's friend, no one will pay that toll for long.

2. You Are Rude

Without exception, everyone wants to feel respected. It's crucial for productive communication and growth. To figure out if you are being rude, you will need to be critically scrutinizing. It will help to have a perspective apart form your own, so grab a trusted friend. (One that doesn't sugar coat, if possible) Are people constantly calling you names, asking why you are doing things or constantly bringing up past situations? You need to be honest with yourself, are you being rude?
Disrespect can look different to each person. You may use slang that upsets them, or not consider their feelings or position. As you realize the people around you deserve to be treated better, just slow your pace and observe. As you ask probing questions, stay open and actively listen. Take people at face value: if they say they don't like something, take them seriously and stop doing that!
Don't get upset that people aren't speaking up for themselves and shutting your rudeness down. They may have tried to and not succeeded. After trying and not succeeding enough times they gave up. Another possibility is they know that those actions weren't you. They had faith that you would grow past it.

3. You Are Always Negative Or Complaining

Commenting on the status of a situation doesn't do much to influence the situation. Remarking on how cold and crappy it is, doesn't make the weather better or you warmer. Commenting on the beauty of a situation doesn't make it more fantastic, it can detract from the momentary enjoyment.
Be specific with your language at all times. Don't talk about how uncomfortable a chair is, fold up your jacket and add it to the cushioning. Your actions don't have to save the world at first, but you can make a start or a dent.
There are elements of life we are stuck with and we are powerless over. If your time and personal resources can't change something, then focus on what you can. We all get bogged down in life's storms but instead of focusing on the current storm, remember how green and beautiful everything will be afterward.

4. You View Your Friends As Enemies

It sounds crazy, we love our friends right? Well, when we don't acknowledge or own up to our feelings, they have a tendency to mutate and effect other parts of our life. It's sad when we refuse to be strong and honest, and the ones we love have our emotional baggage thrust upon them. This scenario can run a myriad of ways, but it is always centered around misplaced emotion and personal denial. Despite your friend's best efforts, you still had to suffer. If they had tried harder then this wouldn't be happening. Your family didn't do exactly as you wanted when everyone's life was difficult, now they are the villains of your story. They made room for the monster you've grown to be.
No matter what happens to us in life, we have to pay attention and be honest. At the end of the day blame is such a pointless emotion, that I don't bother sorting it anymore. Stay focused on the now, and remember tomorrow isn't guaranteed.

9 Tips to Bounce Back From Failure

Let’s face it: Failure sucks. Almost all of us would love it if we succeeded on the first try every single time. That’s not how it works, though. And the idea of failure sometimes prevents us from even trying to begin with.
Failure, especially repeated failure, can be hard to bounce back from. It’s easy to become invested in a situation or project and want it to go a certain way. When it doesn’t, it can be disappointing or even crush your confidence.
It might get to the point where you might wonder, Why even try? It can be extra tough when you feel you’re doing your best, and your best isn’t good enough.
Failure is inevitable. It doesn’t feel good, but it’s part of life. Instead of fearing failure, here are some ways to help you bounce back and regain your confidence when it does happen.

1. What Did You Learn?

We fail so we can learn. If you never failed, you would never learn. You’d just be perfect in every way … which sounds super boring to me.
If you fail at something, look for the lessons:
  • What did you learn?
  • How will it help you succeed in the future?
  • How will you do things differently next time?
Understanding lessons can help us see that our time and efforts aren’t wasted — we’ve come out this a smarter, more able human than before.

2. Success is Built Out of Failure

There are a lot of gatekeepers in life who can help us achieve what we want  or hold us back. They could be the person who’s interviewing you for your dream job. It might be the publishers you’re sending your novel to. It could even be as simple as the friends of the guy or girl you really like.
Here’s the thing: Deep down, they don’t want you to fail. But they can’t let everyone through, so they also want the best.
Each time they reject you, you can look at it one way and quit. Or you can look at it as you’re not quite there yet, but if you keep at it, if you use those lessons to keep building, you will be.

3. Who Failed First?

Pretty much every famous person you know of has failed at some point in their career.
Failing is disheartening. So for motivation to keep going, look to these people who came and failed before you.
  • The Chicken Soup for the Soul series was rejected 140 times before being published.
  • Even Dr. Seuss and the Harry Potter series were rejected.
  • The founder of the Honda car company had his factories destroyed both by war and an earthquake.
If these people had faced failure a few times and given up, they would’ve never found their massive success. Use stories like this as motivation.

4. Take the Long-Term View

Sometimes we think we should succeed almost immediately.
Maybe you think your new business will be an overnight success, or you’re going to master that new skill almost instantly.
And then it turns out, success is hard. And maybe we quit. Or maybe we keep on going like the people above in No. 3.
So check your expectations. Unmet expectations can actually cause us distress (they affect the chemicals in our brain).
Instead, take the long term view. I don’t know who said it first, but there’s a saying that goes, “Success is like growing bamboo.”
Bamboo seems like it takes a long time to grow. For the first five years, you don’t really see much happening.
Just a tiny shoot. For five years.
What we don’t see is what’s happening underground. Its roots are pushing through the dirt, growing in complexity — setting the foundation.
And then, its growth explodes and the tree can rise by up to a meter a day.
Success is the same way. Look at your failures as setting the foundation. Take the long-term view and grow bamboo.

5. Watch Your Self-Talk

What goes through your mind when you fail? What you tell yourself can have a massive impact.
If you fail and think, “I’m a failure,” there’s a problem. That statement implies that you are currently a failure, have always been a failure and will continue to be a failure.
If you think something like that, correct yourself. “I’m a failure,” can become, “This particular attempt failed,” or “This time I didn’t succeed, but I can do better later on.”
It can get tough especially when you have multiple failures in a row. But look at each one as a specific, non-permanent event.
Just changing your self-talk around can have a massive impact on your success and perseverance.

6. Make a List of Your Previous Successes

If you’re having difficulty regaining your confidence and bouncing back, grab a pen and some paper.
If you’ve failed, it can be easy to become too focused on the negative and not see the positive (especially if it’s been failure after failure). If this happens to you, it’s ok — our brains have a negativity bias, so it’s just the way we work.
When you feel like you’re starting to become overwhelmed by failure and having a hard time continuing , write down every success you’ve had you can think of.
It doesn’t matter how big or small they are — looking for the small wins is great. It can be something as simple as:
  • Each time you put yourself out there (It takes courage!)
  • Each lesson you’ve learned
  • Each time you pushed forward
  • The small awards you’ve gotten
  • That time your friends or loved ones liked your work
  • The time you made that person smile
  • The one paying client you got that one time
Focus on the tiny successes. You can even keep a daily journal of them to help you keep going.

7. Failure is Not a Reflection of Who You Are

Our brains are funny things, and they respond to threats that sometimes aren’t there. Some of those threats are things that make us look foolish or lesser in the eyes of others.
We don’t want to fail. But failure is not a reflection of who you are. Your reaction to failure is.
It’s your call whether to pick yourself up or not. If anyone judges you based on your failures, that’s their problem, not yours.

8. Re-Evaluate Your Plan

If you keep trying the same thing over and over and it’s not working, it’s time to take another look at it.
  • Is there a better way to go about it?
  • Are there people who can help you?
  • Are your expectations unrealistic?
There’s a saying that doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. It’s not, but it is kind of stupid.
Failure might be telling you something more.
Here’s the thing. I mentioned people who kept on going and going, but sometimes the right move is to quit.
Seth Godin’s book The Dip is all about when to quit and when to keep going. It’s just looking at when quitting is the right thing to do.
I used to teach Salsa dancing, and I gave it up. I kept trying to get new students and turn it into a full-time practice, but it wasn’t working.
Were there other (probably more effective) approaches I could’ve learned and tried? Sure.
But did I want to?
When it came down to it, and I got really honest, my heart wasn’t in it. I wanted to be helping people in a different way.
So I quit, and was immediately happier as a result. Stick with it when you’re growing bamboo. Quit when the soil’s no good and you need to plant elsewhere.

9. Give Yourself a Mourning Period

Failure is loss.
And it’s okay to grieve a loss. So if you fail, especially at something you’re really wrapped up in, give yourself time to mourn it.
How many days do you need? One day, maybe three or more for a larger failure? Give yourself time to get over it. But the key is to set a time limit. And once it’s set, commit to jumping back on the horse.
What this does is reframe how you feel toward failure — it makes your feelings your choice. In the end, it might not seem like it, but failure is not your enemy. It’s your mentor.
It might be a mentor who you don’t want to see, but when they show up, it’s not to hold you back, but help you along.
Your success is born out of the flames of failure.

Scientists shocked after CT scan of 1,000-year-old Buddha statue reveal mummified remains of meditating monk

  • -Mummified remains in the statue date back to the 11th or 12th Century

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  • Researchers knew there was a mummy in statue but were shocked to find that the monk was missing all of his organs
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  • Study determined the mummy was that of Buddhist master Liuquan 

  • Mummified remains of a monk have been found encased in a Buddha statue dating back to the 11th or 12th Century. 
    Erik Bruijn, an Buddhism expert, led the study that determined the mummy was of Buddhist master Liuquan, who belonged to the Chinese Meditation School.
    The CT scan and endoscopy were carried out by Drents Museum at Meander Medical Centre in the Netherlands.

    A Buddha statue (left) containing a mummified monk (CT scan right) was actually stolen from a village temple ten years ago, Chinese experts have claimed
    Ancient: A study led by Erik Bruijn, a Buddism art and culture expert, looked into mummified remains of a monk that were found encased in a 1,000-year-old Buddha statue

    Reserachers knew that there were remains dating back to the 11th or 12th Century in the statue, but it wasn't until the CT scan that they discovered all of the monk's organs had been removed
    Reserachers knew that there were remains dating back to the 11th or 12th Century in the statue, but it wasn't until the CT scan that they discovered all of the monk's organs had been removed

    While it was known before the scan that a mummy was inside the statue, it wasn't until then that researchers discovered that the monk's organs had been removed from his body, according to Colossal.
    Rolls of paper scraps covered in Chinese writing were discovered alongside the monk.
    After the scan, the mummy was taken to Budapest, where it will be on display at the Hungarian Natural History Museum until May 2015.  

    Many practicing Buddhists believe that mummies like that of Buddhist master Liuquan aren't actually dead, but are rather in an advanced state of meditation, according to International Business Times

    Many practicing Buddists believe that mummies like that of Buddhist master Liuquan aren't actually dead, but instead, they believe these monks are in an advanced state of meditation. Another mummified monk like the one in the statue was found in Mongolia in January

    Many practicing Buddists believe that mummies like that of Buddhist master Liuquan aren't actually dead, but instead, they believe these monks are in an advanced state of meditation. Another mummified monk like the one in the statue was found in Mongolia in January
    In January, mummified remains of a man apparently meditating in the lotus position were unearthed in Mongolia.
    The human relic is believed to be around 200 years old and was preserved in animal skin.
    Initial speculation is that the mummy could be a teacher of Lama Dashi-Dorzho Itigilov.
    Dashi-Dorzho Itigilov, born in 1852, was a Buryat Buddhist Lama of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, best known for the lifelike state of his body.
    While researchers are still looking into their findings from the hollow statue, the mummy was taken to the Hungarian Natural History Museum in Budapest where it will be on display until May 2015
    While researchers are still looking into their findings from the hollow statue, the mummy was taken to the Hungarian Natural History Museum in Budapest where it will be on display until May 2015


    Discover Happiness through Purpose in 3 Natural Steps

    “The person who lives life fully, glowing with life’s energy, is the person who lives a successful life.” ~Daisaku Ikeda

    In everything we do, we seek happiness. Or at least what we think will bring happiness.
    But this goal can often get us into trouble. It’s how you find yourself in a career that doesn’t represent you, consuming things lacking real value, and living a life that misses its impact on the world.

    Most of the things we think create happiness don’t.
    We get caught in a spiral and life suddenly becomes a race to be won instead of a game to be played and enjoyed. Our focus on ‘success,’ as society calls it, blurs our more important intangibles of life—our relationships and experiences.
    The fear (and sad reality for many) is that we wake up thirty years from now, stressed, unhealthy, and unfulfilled, wondering what on earth happened to those wonderful dreams we once dared to dream.
    I’ll tell you what happened: We fell into the trap of being what others felt we should be as opposed to who we were meant to be. Others’ dreams became ours, only to realize they never mattered to us in the first place. We adopted the world’s definition of success instead of understanding and pursing our own.
    Well, there is good news. No matter when you wake up to this reality, it is never too late to take a stand and travel down that fresh path.
    In all of my experience as a friend, writer, husband, personal freedom coach, and citizen of the world, I’ve learned that there is nothing more consistent with unhappiness than spending your time in a way that doesn’t serve who you are. And to the contrary, there is no more profound source of fulfillment and happiness than knowing you are traveling your own path and making the dent in the world you know you’re capable of.

    The Simple Answer to Lasting Happiness: Living Your Purpose

    While purpose is a nice concept that is often overused in the personal development space, it can be a lot to sink your teeth into. It’s one thing to believe in the idea but an entirely different one to vicerally experience and live it.
    Until you find your own life path, you will forever be trying to follow someone else’s. The inauthenticity will eat you up. Without a path, your true potential will be lost. But to confidently begin the journey, you must better know the traveler—you.

    3 Steps to Blazing a Trail and Discovering Your Purpose

    1. Know your values.

    These are your building blocks. What’s most important to you above all else? I’m talking the zero compromise areas of who you are. Family, health, freedom, honesty, intimacy, playfulness, love, adventure, achievement. The list is infinite.
    Pick your top few. Prioritize them. What events and experiences allow you to feel them? This is your foundation. Your compass.

    2. Know your super powers.

    We all have things we naturally knock out of the park. Your core strengths. Some might even call them gifts. Is it public speaking, teaching, analysis, social interaction, influencing, positivity, discipline, problem solving? Most of us have a gut feeling of what these are.
    What have past experiences shown? What have people consistently complimented you on? What’s your favorite type of project to put your heart into? The book Strengths Finder 2.0 is an awesome place to start.

    3. Know your passion moments.

    We’ve all had them. A moment or time in your life when you felt invincible. It could come during a work project, caring for a child, exploring a new place, or cooking a meal. Anything as long as you feel it at your core. You’ve likely had more than one.
    Keep a list of these passion moments. And noticing this in others is just as important. What have you seen people around you do that inspire purpose? This list will never stop growing and with every addition, you will gain more clarity on what lights a fire in your belly.

    “Don’t be pushed by your problems; be led by your dreams.”

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    5 Ways to Push Through Discomfort to Make Positive Change

    “Don’t let today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams.” ~Unknown

    One of the most difficult parts of reaching your goals or making positive change is pushing through discomfort.
    This is where a lot of people give up—when the process inspires all kinds of challenging feelings.
    If you’ve quit your day job to pursue your passion and after six months you need to sell your car to keep going, a cubicle may appeal to your need for security.
    If you’d like to get your masters degree but received rejection letters for the fall, your ego might tell you not to reapply.
    If you’d love to let someone into your life but you’re afraid of being hurt, you may bail at the first sign of conflict.

    Maybe your will is strong enough to clear emotional hurdles without flinching; but odds are, you’re at least a little familiar with that nagging inner voice that says, “Go back. It’s too hard. It’s not worth it.”

    Except it is. According to the video 212 degrees, the margin of victory for the last ten years in the Indy 500 has been 1.54 seconds. The margin of victory in all major golf tournaments in the last 25 years was only three strokes.
    The day you give up could easily be three strokes before you succeed. Even if your future doesn’t unfold exactly as you’d planned, you’ll never regret what you become through the process of following your bliss.
    Now it’s just about how. How do you separate yourself from your fears so they don’t sabotage your efforts? How do silence that inner voice and force yourself to keep taking step, after step, after step? Here are the five ways:

    1. Identify potential challenges and decide that you can meet them.

    List all the factors that could encourage you to quit. Be specific. What sacrifices will be the most difficult? What changes might push you way out of your comfort zone?
    Then ask yourself this: what’s the payoff if you keep going?

    2. Observe your emotions without resisting them.

    Unless you have a lobotomy, you will experience rushes of emotion all throughout your life. What’s important to realize is that you are not your feelings or thoughts. You exist beyond the machine that is your mind.
    This is where you’re able to experience life as it actually is without analyzing, judging, forming opinions, conjuring up images of the past, and worrying about the future.
    Notice your feelings. Feel them. Realize they aren’t permanent—you won’t always feel scared, or anxious, or paranoid.
    When you stop resisting something, it’s a lot easier to let it go.

    3. When your emotions get louder, challenge them with more emotions.

    In The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle explores how we can quiet our persistent inner monologue and step fully into the present moment, accepting it for all it is.
    Most people who reach this level of enlightenment still go back and forth between observing the mind and submitting to it. This tells me we need a few tricks up our sleeve to get past the louder mental moments.

    4. Celebrate all your minor victories.

    When we have large goals, it’s tempting to feel dissatisfied until we’ve reached them completely. If you want to produce a feature film, securing the first location might seem like little more than an item on your to-do list.
    But it’s so much more than that. It’s your first of many successes on the way to your dream. It’s a reflection of how amazing you are—how talented, capable, driven, and powerful you are at your core.
    If you give yourself a lot of credit for every small thing, you’ll likely keep piling them up—and that’s what gets you where you want to be.

    5. Call yourself a liar.

    Oftentimes people give up because they’ve stopped believing in the possibility of the life they want to create. They start rationalizing in their head, “It’s probably too far-fetched.” Or they may even trick themselves into believing they don’t really want it.
    “I don’t want that promotion anyway. It would be far too much travel.”
    There’s a small chance this is actually true, but most likely you’re bargaining with yourself so you feel have permission to quit. Say it loud and proud: “That’s not true. I can do this. I do want it. I will keep going.”
    This is your chance—right now—to live the life you want to live. This is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for. You are the connection you’ve been hoping to make. You are the light you’ve been seeking.

    So shine on. Plow ahead. Be bold. Be present.

    How to Forgive Someone When It’s Hard: 30 Tips to Let Go of Anger

    “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~ Gandhi

    No one is purely bad, and everyone carries their own pain which influences the decisions they make. This doesn’t condone their thoughtless, insensitive, or selfish decisions, but it makes them easier to understand.
    After all, we’ve all been thoughtless, insensitive, and selfish at times. Usually, we have good intentions.
    And for the most part, we all do the best we can from day to day—even when we hurt someone; even when we’re too stubborn, ashamed, or in denial to admit the hurt we’ve caused.

    So how do you forgive someone when every fiber of your being resists? How do you look at them lovingly when you still have the memory of their unloving action? How do let go of the way you wish things had worked out if only they made a different choice?

    1. I remember them as a child and it’s much easier!

    2. I remind myself that I forgive not for them but for me and that it’s easier to forgive than to hang on to so much anger, hurt and betrayal. 

    3. I just acknowledge that we are humans, so we are allowed to make mistakes.

    4. Remind yourself that they are not separate from you; they only appear that way. Then you will realize you are one, and it is yourself you are forgiving. 

    5. Do not keep thinking of the past or the bad thing that happened; when you let go of it, you get over the anger/bitterness that you felt and it clears the path of forgiveness! The best thing is time! 

    6. Remember that we are all doing the best we can at the time.

    7. Remind yourself of how much forgiveness would mean to you if it was your turn for a mistake! 

    8. Wayne Dwyer describes how hate is love which has been turned around. Seeing the expression of what can’t be forgiven as love makes it easier to forgive. Were also all doing the best we can, according to our own evolutionary state, including those we find hard to forgive. 
    9. Because it takes less energy to love and forgive than it does to stay angry and hold a grudge.It brings peace to your life.

    10. I know that I need to forgive someone, not for their benefit, but for my own peace of mind.Don’t do it for them, do it for you! 

    11. You remember why you love them. Love is about forgiveness.

    12. Forgiveness comes easier with the passing of time. I tend to find that, if I am wronged, I forgive the person before they forgive themselves, and when I am in need of forgiveness, it is I who feels the guilt for longer.

    13. Stop thinking and just do it. Open your heart and forgive.

    14. Don’t force it. If I don’t feel forgiving, I can at least not act on my anger. Eventually forgiveness will come if you welcome it.

    15. Just learn to smile and let things go. 

    16. Give up on all hope of a better past. 

    17. Every time you think of them send them love. After a while it gets easy.

    18. Meditate, meditate and meditate some more until it’s gone!

    19. The harder it is to forgive someone else, the more I am responsible. When I understand and forgive myself, forgiving others is easy.

    20. Two different approaches. One involves restoring your boundaries and sense of protection first. The other involves focusing on what your body is feeling and stop dwelling on the offense. Both involve being present.

    21. Forgiveness comes easy when you know that what people say or do is about them, it’s not about you.

    22. Shift the focus, feel the pain and think of the thousands of others in the world who are also feeling the same pain, then send a loving-kindness message to everyone to be relieved of this suffering.

    23. When it happens I often ask myself “What strengths must I develop further from this?” Often the feeling of resentment just goes away, slowly but surely, because I wasn’t focusing on the person that wronged me, but the lesson that the event was trying to tell me. 

    24. I allow myself to feel again whatever I didn’t express “in the moment” when I was with them.Forgiveness always seem to follow those (usually) difficult emotions. 

    25. Write a brutally honest, emotionally raw letter telling them how much they have hurt and angered you, then tear it up and burn it. As you watch the smoke rise, think about the fact that you are not that hurt and that anger. It is fleeting, just like everything else. As the smoke carrying your hurt and disappointment disappears into the air, you can let it go.

    26. For some wrongs, I just have to remember that they are responsible for their actions and then it is easier for me to just let it be.

    27. By remembering that it will free me from the burden of the stress I feel, also, if I can’t forgive then how can I expect to ever be forgiven?

    28. Just look to the future instead of focusing on what’s past…think of creating new good memories to wipe away old bad ones.

    29. It becomes easy when you remember a time when you were forgiven, centering on how it made you feel.

    30. Understand this: whether you like it or not, over time, you will stop feeling the pain, so why hold on to something that’s going to away anyway?

    How did I forgive when it was hard? I came to this realization: No one ever gets to the end of their life and thinks, “I wish I stayed angry longer.” They generally say one of three things: “I’m sorry,” “I forgive you,” or “I love you.”

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