6 WAYS TO EASILY STOP YOUR NEGATIVE HABITS

Have you ever wondered why we tend to find ourselves repeating the same unwanted cycles of behavior, time and time again? If you’ve ever wanted to empower yourself to change that, below are some excellent tools that will help you!


1. Autosuggest!

Autosuggestion is sort of like hacking the subconscious. It is ideally used in a relaxed state of mind (producing alpha or theta brainwaves), such as during meditation or while being out in nature. It is the act of lacing repetitive thoughts with strong emotion.

For example, you might want to practice self-love in substitution of harmful activities such as binge-eating junk food. In this case, your repetitive thoughts might be a mantra like “I love myself” and you would intentionally practice engaging the feeling of compassion and kindness towards yourself.

Interestingly enough, Napoleon Hill’s famous book Think and Grow Rich is essentially based off of the principle of autosuggestion. It is a way of programming the subconscious mind with conscious intention.

2. Ask Yourself What Benefits You’re Perceiving from Your Behavior and Substitute

What benefits are you currently receiving from the action that you’re taking? Write them down. For example, maybe when you get angry you are able to finally say what you’re otherwise afraid to. In that case, the benefit might be something like “open communication.”

Once you’ve discovered the core hidden benefits, decide what you can substitute the behaviour with instead. Maybe instead of yelling, you can write a letter to someone about how you feel, or you can give yourself time to sort through your thoughts before communicating emotionally. Without understanding the unconsciously perceived benefits of our actions, it can be challenging to create a more suitable approach.

3. Tie Your New Habits Into Your Highest Values

Renowned behavioral development specialist Dr. John DeMartini concluded that we all have a set of values that run our lives. These are largely subconscious, and are found in our behavior rather than our desires. When we want to implement new strategies in the place of old ones, we have to perceive these strategies as creating more support than challenge to our core values (Dr. DeMartini,The Values Factor).

This is because chances are, we originally created our now “unwanted” behaviours because we once saw them as efficient strategies to get our values met. By writing down 10-15 reasons that a healthier behaviour supports our values even more, we create resonance, rather than dissonance, between the conscious and subconscious mind. Without doing this, we often automatically perceive new strategies as taking time away from our values, and we subconsciously self-sabotage the new habits in our lives.

4. Re-Write the Program in Presence

It is crucial to become aware of exactly what the program is. As in, what cycle of behavior do you want to change, and what do you want to change it to? To implement new behavior at a conscious level, the practice of presence is an absolute requirement.

When we begin to notice ourselves practicing unwanted behavior, it allows us to automatically anchor ourselves in the present moment. This “noticing yourself” is essentially consciousness becoming aware of itself. In the awareness of that moment, you have created space to practice a new, conscious (rather than subconscious) strategy. Once you’ve accomplished this, you can repeatedly work to implement the new strategy each time the old behavior surfaces. Since the subconscious mind is programmed through repetition, you will eventually re-write the program that previously existed.

5. Visualize

Visualization falls under the same umbrella as autosuggestion, but engages more of the senses than the feelings. The trick to visualization is to focus on whatever it is that you want to manifest, as if you are actually there. What does it smell like in that moment? What do you hear? What do you see, in detail? Go through all of your senses and engage them. This is most effectively done in ten minute intervals at the start and end of your day.

6. Question the Thinking That Creates the Reaction

This sounds simple and self-explanatory, but it is often the most challenging for people to practice. Our fearful responses or behaviors usually stem from the perception that a threat exists. For example, if you are running late for work and get stuck in traffic, you might have thoughts like, “Everyone will think I’m lazy. They’ll think I don’t care about my job. My boss will hate me. What if he fires me?”
As you have these emotionally-fueled thoughts, you actually minimize your own ability to think rationally and make good decisions. This is because have moved your brain activity out of the neocortex (thinking, coping brain) and into the limbic system and reptilian brain (emotional brain and primitive response area). This results in a greater likelihood you will embody the emotional thoughts that you are believing.

Change gears and ask yourself, “Is this true? Can I know that what I’m believing and reacting to is real?” When you debunk the perceived threat, the reaction will automatically begin to dissipate.

Why This is Important

We all deserve to live an empowered life, with the ability to manifest our goals and desires into reality. With more self-awareness and understanding, we gain the ability to move more efficiently and effectively toward our dreams.

What Is Meditation ? – It’s A Natural State and Very Simple Phenomenon

Meditation is a natural state. Simply relaxing, enjoying, resting but not sleeping. Being here and now totally, in the moment, without thinking about the future, about the past, just observing the thoughts which are coming and going, without judging, just observing.

13330899_965218380265104_3800948751888715753_nIn our mind there is constantly traffic of thoughts, good thoughts, bad thoughts. Just observe them, don’t judge this thought is good thought, i should have more thoughts like this one, and this thought is bad thought. Just observe the traffic of thoughts in your mind, you will notice a silent pauses between the thoughts. This pauses will become bigger and bigger. And that’s the goal, our mind to become more silent.
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The meditation is enjoying, dancing, singing, loving. We all have been in this state. It doesn’t mean that is a passive state, you can dance, you can work and be meditative, observing your self, observing your words, what you talk, how you talk, how you move.
And in the and of the day, you will become more aware, conscious, compassionate and loving being full of understanding and love.

Nothing Is Permanent – A Zen Buddhist Story That Will Change Your Perspective About Life

Buddha was traveling through a forest. The day was hot — it was just midday — he felt thirsty, so he said to his disciple Ananda, “Go back. We crossed a little stream. You go back and bring, fetch, some water for me.”

Ananda went back, but the stream was very small and some carts were passing through it. The water was disturbed and had become dirty. All the dirt that had settled in it had come up, and the water was not drinkable now. So Ananda thought, “I shall have to go back.” He came back and he said to Buddha, “That water has become absolutely dirty and it is not drinkable. Allow me to go ahead. I know there is a river just a few miles away from here. I will go and fetch water from there.”
Buddha said, “No! You go back to the same stream.” As Buddha had said this Ananda had to follow it, but he followed it with half a heart as he knew that the water would not be brought. And time was being unnecessarily wasted and he was feeling thirsty, but when Buddha said it he had to go.
Again he came back and he said, “Why did you insist? That water is not drinkable.”
Buddha said, “You go again.” And as Buddha said it, Ananda had to follow.
The third time he reached the stream, the water was as clear as it had ever been. The dust had flowed away, the dead leaves had gone, and the water was pure again. Then Ananda laughed. He brought the water and he came dancing. He fell at Buddha’s feet and he said, “Your ways of teaching are miraculous. You have taught me a great lesson — that just patience is needed and nothing is permanent.”

ONE BUDDHA TEACHING THAT WILL TELL YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF THAN ANYTHING ELSE

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In Buddhism one of the ‘Three Characteristics’ is No-Self (the other two are impermanence and suffering which are closely associated with this). This refers to the illusion of reality having a permanent and separate self.There is this notion that there is a permanent “I” or “me,” which is a separate entity that can be found. The obvious assumption of we are our body sounds good until we look at it and say “this is my body,” which implies at that moment that whatever owns the body wasn’t the body. The observer and the observed; duality denies our body being what we are. It is also in a state of impermanence, and at a sensate level it is made up of energy flickering at a similar rate to reality.

Perhaps thoughts are the “I.” They may seem more like the true “me” than the body does. But they come and go and are changing constantly too, as well as the majority of them not being under our control at all. They too aren’t something solid enough to assume they are the “I.” The ego is a process of identification with reality (physical and mental phenomena), not a thing in and of itself; it is like a bad habit. Not being a thing, it cannot be destroyed as some people say, but by understanding our bare experience, our mind, the process of identification can stop.

There is also something frequently called the “watcher” or “observer,” which is observing all of these phenomena. Strangely, the watcher can’t be found either, as it seems to sometimes be our eyes, sometimes not; sometimes it’s images in our head; sometimes it seems to be our body and sometimes it’s watching the body. It seems odd that this watcher to which all of this is being perceived by, which seems separate from reality and which seems in control of “us” is constantly changing and completely unfindable.

One of the biggest clues in solving this mystery is that if we are observing it, then by definition it isn’t us. Reality is made up entirely of sensations, and to begin to unravel this mystery is to begin to awaken. Reality with a sense of a separate watcher is a delusion. So who or what is it that awakens?

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What Awakens?

In short, it’s all of this transience that awakens! Here’s an explanation, keep in mind this is an attempt at summarising something quite complicated.

No-Self teachings directly counter the sense that there is a separate watcher, and that this watcher is “us” that is in control, observing reality or subject to the tribulations of the world. These teachings stop the process of mentally creating the illusion of a separate self from sensations that are inherently non-dual and utterly transient.
buddhaThere are physical phenomena (everything we perceive with our senses) and mental phenomena (thoughts, feelings, emotions). These are just phenomena, and all phenomena aren’t a permanent, separate self as they are completely impermanent and are intimately interdependent. These phenomena arise and pass as we venture through reality, i.e. the sound of a bird singing comes into existence and then dissipates.

There is also awareness of these phenomena, but awareness is not a thing or localised in a particular place, so to even say “there is awareness” is already a large problem, as it implies separateness and existence of it where none can be found. Awareness is permanent and unchanging, and it is said that all things arise from it, and all things return to it. It could be called God, Nirvana, The Tao, Allah, the present moment, the Buddha nature or just awareness.

While phenomena are in flux from their arising to their passing, there is awareness of them. Thus, awareness is not these phenomena, as it is not a thing, nor is it separate from these objects, as there would be no experience if this were so.

True-Self

True-Self teachings point out that we actually are all these phenomena, rather than them being seen as observed. As phenomena are observed, they can’t possibly be the observer. Thus, the observer, which is awareness, cannot possibly be a phenomenon and thus is not localised and therefore doesn’t exist. Duality implies something on both sides: an observer and an observed. However, there is no phenomenal observer, so duality doesn’t hold up under careful investigation. When the illusion of duality permanently collapses in awakening, in direct experience, all that is left is these phenomena, which is the True Self.
There’s a great little Buddhist poem by Kalu Rinpoche that sums all this up:
We live in illusion and the appearance of things.
There is a reality, we are that reality.
When you understand this, you will see “you” are nothing.
And, being nothing, you are everything.

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These 10 Things You Should Stop Doing if You Want to Live Longer

According to the World Health Organization, the average life expectancy at birth worldwide in 2013 was 71 years. The average human lifespan has increased steadily over the last few decades thanks to progress in the field of medicine.
Effective vaccines and medicines have helped fight diseases that could otherwise cut a person’s life short.
In fact, science has helped extend the average person’s life span by nearly three decades during the last century, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
Along with medicine, improvements in working conditions and sanitation as well as overall awareness of the importance of a healthy lifestyle have also played key roles in increasing lifespan.
If you want to be healthier and live longer, you need to pay attention to your lifestyle and dietary choices.

Here are 10 things you should stop doing if you want to live longer.

1. Unhealthy Diet

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Unhealthy eating is a major contributing factor to reduced quality of life and several health problems. Obesity, Type 2 diabetes, heart disease, strokes, high cholesterol, dementia and many types of cancer are closely related to an unhealthy diet.
In fact, in the U.S., dietary factors, high body mass index and physical inactivity cause more health loss than alcohol or drug use.
To improve your health, include organic fruits and vegetables, fiber-rich foods, whole-grain products, low-fat dairy items and healthy fats in your diet.
Also, limit your processed food and salt intake. Plus, avoid caffeine. A healthy diet is incomplete without drinking an adequate amount of water throughout the day.
In addition, do not skip breakfast and eat 3 small meals and some healthy snacks in between.

2. Being a Couch Potato

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Lack of physical activity is the single most important factor that affects your longevity. A 2015 study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition concluded that lack of physical activity has long been associated with an increased risk of early death, independent of a person’s body mass index (BMI).
Physical activity boosts your immunity, improves cardiovascular and respiratory functions, slows the loss of muscular strength, increases bone mass, improves digestion, promotes sound sleep and prevents depression.
Even if you are busy, it is important to make some time for some sort of physical activity in your daily routine. Just 30 minutes of exercise a day, five or more times per week, can help extend your life.
Go for a walk or run for 20 to 30 minutes daily, enjoy aerobic exercises a few times a week and opt for swimming, bicycling, trekking or other sports on the weekends.

3. Not Getting Proper Sleep

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The amount of sleep you get daily can affect your lifespan. A 2007 study published in the Sleep journal showed that both a decrease and an increase in sleep duration are associated with increased mortality rates.
Sleeping less than six hours at night makes you more likely to die prematurely than people who sleep up to eight hours.
Regular poor sleep puts you at risk of serious health problems, including obesity, heart disease and diabetes. On the other hand, a good night’s sleep can help ward off stress, depression and heart disease.
On average, an adult needs around eight hours of good quality sleep each night to function properly. As a rule, if you wake up feeling tired and look for opportunities to nap, it is a sure sign that you are not getting enough sleep.
To help enjoy good sleep, eat a light dinner, keep your bedroom dark and distraction-free, meditate, drink a glass of warm milk before going to sleep, enjoy a warm bath at night and keep the temperature in your bedroom on the cool side.

4. Stressing a Lot

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Too much stress can take a toll on your health and may actually shorten your life. Stress increases the hormone cortisol in the body, which has negative effects on your heart, metabolism and immune system.
A 2012 study published inthe British Medical Journal showed the link between increased risk of heart attacks or strokes and stress, which increases mortality rates.
By taking steps to reduce stress, you can improve your health as well as quality of life. Less stress and anxiety helps strengthen the immune system and decreases susceptibility to disease. It even reduces the risk of depression and anxiety.
Exercise, proper sleep, visualization and meditation can produce visible changes in your body’s stress response.

5. Smoking

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If you are a smoker, stop smoking now to add years to your life. In fact, it will also increase the chance of a disease-free life.
According to the CDC, an estimated 43.8 million Americans smoke and it is the leading cause of preventable deaths in the U.S.
Cigarette smoke contains more than 1,000 chemicals that are harmful to the smoker as well as those exposed to the smoke.
These chemicals can lead to lung cancer, heart disease, skin problems, chronic bronchitis, teeth impairment and accelerated aging.
Once you make up your mind to quit smoking, be prepared to experience withdrawal symptoms like frustration, anxiety, anger, lack of concentration, increased appetite, headaches, higher blood pressure and a constant craving to smoke.
You can get help from professionals, support from family members, prescription medications and natural aids to help quit smoking and cope with the withdrawal symptoms.

6. Drinking Excessively or Using Hard Drugs

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Another way to increase your life span is to stay away from hard drugs as well as alcohol.
People use hard drugs for a variety of reasons, such as to have fun, relax, fight depression, gain confidence, escape from reality, relieve boredom and stress, and even as self-medication to cope with problems.
Misuse of hard drugs can be harmful to your health in both the short and long term, and often leads to addiction. Some of the hard drugs that you need to stay away from include heroin, cocaine, methamphetamine, crack cocaine, and others.
Similar to hard drugs, excessive drinking can lead to health issues, such as liver disease, digestive problems, heart problems, diabetes complications and a weakened immune system.
Both drug and alcohol addictions are associated with accidental injury, assault, unsuccessful marriages, increased crime and suicide.

7. Ignoring Oral Hygiene

Proper oral hygiene is important to prevent tooth decay, dry mouth, toothaches and gum disease. It also supports your overall health by removing harmful bacteria from your mouth.
Oral bacteria increases the risk of heart disease, kidney disease, strokes, diabetes, Alzheimer’s disease and some forms of cancer.
Gum disease is the sixth most prevalent chronic condition in the world, affecting 743 million people. In the U.S., one in every two adults suffer from periodontal disease.
By maintaining oral hygiene, you can prevent gum disease and other oral problems and thus increase your longevity.
Brush your teeth twice daily, floss every day, rinse with an antiseptic mouthwash twice daily and get dental check-ups every six months.
Avoid dry mouth by chewing sugarless chewing gum and drinking plenty of water. Also, avoid sugary sports drinks and beverages.

8. Avoiding Sun Exposure

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The link between excessive sun exposure and an increased risk of skin cancer has led many people to avoid the sun entirely. But totally ignoring the sun can negatively affect your health.
Moderate exposure to sunlight stimulates vitamin D production in the body. Vitamin D deficiency is a major risk factor for different types of cancer, heart disease, strokes, hypertension, autoimmune diseases, Type 2 diabetes, depression, birth defects, infectious diseases and more.
A 2011 study published in the Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers & Prevention journal concluded that normal sun exposure helps reduce the risk of both cardiovascular and death.
Expose your body to early morning sunlight for 10 to 15 minutes (without sunscreen). Avoid direct sunlight during the peak hours (10 a.m. to 4 p.m.) of the day.
Wear sunscreen if you must be outdoors during the peak hours and consider protective film for your car windows to reduce radiation exposure.

9. Negative Thinking

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Negative thoughts limit your potential to live a fulfilling, purposeful life. They also have a harmful effect on your health by increasing your stress level.
Other effects of negative thinking include anger, frustration, irritability, anxiety and depression. In addition, a negative emotional state can lead to eating disorders – from over-eating to a complete lack of appetite.
Stay positive by finding a purpose in your life. This will help you feel better about yourself, increase your productivity, reduce stress and ultimately help you live longer. It also helps you cultivate healthy relationships, which surely affects your health in many positive ways.
To reduce negativity in your life, be grateful for everything you have, laugh more, help others who are in need, meditate and surround yourself with positive people.

10. Avoiding Regular Medical Check-ups

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Even if you have close family members who have lived long lives, you cannot rely solely on your genetics. Environmental and lifestyle factors play a major role in your longevity.
Therefore, it is essential to take charge of your health by seeing your doctor regularly so that you can get needed screenings and examinations in a timely manner.
When it comes to health problems, prevention is always better than the cure. Early detection ensures better treatment and recovery rates. It will also be less expensive.
Some of the important screenings and tests include breast examination, cholesterol and high blood pressure testing, bone density testing, colorectal cancer screening, dental check-ups and so on.
When visiting a doctor, you need to be truthful about your lifestyle and health symptoms. At the same time, take your doctor’s advice seriously.
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Reasons Why You Should Sleep on Your Left Side

Note: Though healthy in general, left-side sleeping may not be suitable in some cases, like for those who have had heart troubles in the past.
People the world over love sleep dearly. There is no denying that it is one of life’s sweetest pleasures.
It’s also well known that sleep is important for one’s overall health and well-being. You cannot expect to function normally and perform to the best of your potential without a good night’s sleep.
Yes, you may be able to get by for a while, but you will likely be mentally disoriented and low on energy, until you are able to take it no more.
Lack of sleep also causes a horde of diseases and possibly fatal conditions. It is one of the biggest factors associated with heart disease.
Along with maintaining a proper sleep pattern, you can give your health a boost by sleeping in a certain position.
Research has shown that sleeping on the left side, as your grandmother may have often told you, is not merely an old wives’ tale but has actual health benefits.

Here are some reasons why you should sleep on your left side.

1. Better Sleep During Pregnancy

In pregnant women, a left-sided sleeping position can prevent the liver from applying pressure on the uterus and promote blood circulation to it, along with improved blood flow to the fetus.
It may also help relieve back pain. Therefore, a left-sided sleeping position may help a pregnant woman sleep well, which is undeniably a major challenge in pregnancy.

2. Better Lymphatic Drainage

The lymphatic system is a web of tissues and organs that carry fluid called lymph throughout the body. Lymph fluid performs the crucial tasks of carrying infection-combating white blood cells through your system and ridding your body of toxins and other harmful substances.
The body’s lymphatic system is dominantly located on the left, and the left side is where the body transports and drains the larger portion of the lymph fluid.
The travelling lymph fluid, carrying with it proteins, metabolites and toxins, is purified by lymph nodes along the way, and finally goes into the heart.
While scientific evidence is yet to be gained in this respect, alternative medicine systems like Ayurveda believe that illnesses that occur on the left side of the body are due to congestion of the lymphatic system.
The spleen is also located on the left side of your body. It is one of the major organs within your lymphatic system. However, it not only purifies the lymph fluid but also your blood.
When you sleep on your left side, gravity allows the drainage of blood and fluid through the spleen to be gradual and relaxed.
It is important to remember that the lymphatic system does not work in conjunction with the heart. It drains the body with the help of muscle contractions, and the pumping action of the heart has nothing to do with it.
Therefore, sleeping on the left allows you to aid the proper drainage and functioning of the lymphatic system inadvertently with the help of gravity.

3. Better Elimination of Waste Products

The body eliminates waste products through the intestines. The small intestine transports waste products through the ileocecal valve (ICV) to the large intestine on the right side.
The large intestine then transports this waste material through the stomach on the right, ultimately dumping it into the descending colon located on the left side of your body.
When you sleep on your left side, the gravitational forces make it easy for the food to move from the small intestine to the large intestine.
Furthermore, as the night progresses and you sleep on your left side, the waste from the large intestine dumps into the colon gradually and slowly.
This allows the colon to be full and ready to eliminate waste in the form of stools properly and easily the next morning.

4. Better Digestion

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The stomach and the pancreas make the digestive enzymes in your body. When you assume the left-side sleeping position, the stomach and pancreas hang comfortably and have adequate space to carry out digestion.
In this case also, gravity allows the food to move through the stomach in a gradual manner and the pancreatic enzymes to release gradually, as needed.
However, when you sleep on the right side, these organs hang in a slightly awkward and uncomfortable position that often makes the food and enzymes empty into the stomach all at once, causing discomfort and disrupted digestion.

5. Heartburn Reduction

Sleeping on the left side may also help reduce acid reflux in your body and may help clear out the existing acid more quickly than if you lie on your right side.
Sleeping in the wrong position can cause the stomach acid to enter the esophagus, thus causing heartburn and other discomfort. This, of course, happens because your stomach is situated on the left side of your body.
In fact, a 2000 study published in The American Journal of Gastroenterology found that the right-side sleeping position causes higher acid levels and an increased incidence of acid reflux as compared to sleeping on the left side.
In most cases, you may notice the beneficial effects of the left-side sleeping position when you suffer frequent heartburn and acid reflux. If you experience heartburn after eating, you can even try lying down on your left side for a good 10 minutes for relief.

6. Back Pain Relief

This is just one of the benefits of sleeping on your side, whether right or left, but with all the benefits of sleeping on the left, you might as well assume a left position for your back pain, too.
People with chronic back pain must not, and probably cannot comfortably, sleep on their backs. Sleeping on your side releases pressure on the spine and reduces back pain.

7. Relieves Varicose Veins

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Sleeping on your left side is also beneficial for those suffering from varicose veins, especially in the lower limbs.
It helps take pressure off a large vein called the inferior vena cava which is located on the right side of the body. This vein carries blood from the lower half of the body to the heart.
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Great Life Lessons To Remember

“In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson” – Tom Bodett

There are so many great lessons we all learn from life. These lessons have helped me become the person I am today. Reading about other peoples’ experiences and lessons in life can give you a better understanding of how you can choose to live your life. To really appreciate the value that these lessons can bring to your life, you need to experience life and embrace the challenges that life throws at you, make mistakes, fail, and bounce back. It is these life lessons that you learn from all of your experiences that will have the most impact.

“People never learn anything by being told, they have to find out for themselves” – Paulo Coelho
So get ready, be open and look forward to passing more life tests and learning more life lessons.
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There are many things in our lives that we have to do, even though we may not want to do it. The trick to managing these aspects of our life is to have activities in our life that we actually enjoy and love doing. It is all about keeping perspective and balance in your life. Health, wealth and happiness are the key ingredients to living a life you love and when you have activities in your life that bring you all three, then you are definitely living a life you love.

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“Paralysis by analysis” is defined in Wikipedia as: “the state of over-analysing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralysing the outcome.” The result is that because decisions are never made opportunities are lost. Don’t spend too much time analysing whether you should or shouldn’t act on an opportunity, or step out of your comfort zone to change your life. Manage your risk, listen to your intuition, find your courage and take action.

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This life lesson is all about self belief and having a positive attitude in life.  Self belief and a positive attitude are the key ingredients to living a successful and fulfilled life.

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Have you ever felt fearful about what others think or say about you? If you seek validation from others before you make a decision or take action, then you will never truly be your own person. If people are speaking unkindly about you, ignore it because the comments they make aren’t really about you, your value or self worth. You don’t need other people to validate you, you are already valuable. When you find your courage and step out of your comfort zone to take positive action in your life, there will be people who will support you, ignore you, reject you and disagree with you – and that’s okay. Focus on those who are supporting and encouraging you to be courageous and to be different.

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This lesson is all about being self aware and surrounding yourself with the right people. Those who support and encourage you, will speak their truth to you and to others with integrity and respect. If you are surrounded by people who are only massaging your ego and speaking ill of others, then that is a sure sign that they will be saying very similar things about you behind your back. Managing your ego is key to learning this lesson as it is your ego that will allow you to have these negative and untrustworthy people in your life.

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Negative self talk is not going to get you anywhere. If you listen to the negativity in your head, then it will definitely creep into the language you use to communicate with others – particularly in difficult and trying situations. Your negative thoughts without a doubt will influence your relationships. A positive attitude creates positive thoughts which results in positive relationships – even in the tough times!

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Become a student of life rather than a person who knows everything. Life lessons can only be learnt the hard way – there is no other way. Embrace the joy of learning new things and stepping into the unknown. There is no joy and there no lessons to be learnt when you know everything there is to know. It is a safe and incredibly boring way to live your life.

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This is a tough life lesson because it is all about understanding the emotions that come with being in love. For some people it takes many times of falling in and out of love before the lesson of “staying true to you,” is learnt. This lesson is also about being self aware and keeping your relationship in perspective. There will always be signs that the person you love may not love you as much. What often happens is that our love blinds us and we choose to ignore these signs. Stay true to you and don’t hand your power over to those people who don’t care for you.

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Stress kills. Deal with whatever it is in your life that is creating bad stress. Practise appreciation and gratitude on a daily basis. It is appreciation and gratitude that provides the energy source for you to live an abundant and fulfilled life. Stress will not provide you with abundance and fulfilment in your life.

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Dream big, think big; be courageous and believe in you. Surround yourself with people who support, encourage and believe in you – don’t worry about those who reject you or dismiss you. Embrace failure and learn from your mistakes. Accept that the lessons in life are only going to be learnt the hard way and there is no easy way to live a full and abundant life. Become a champion of change and go make a difference in the world.

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