Many of us worry whether or not our kids are happy. We envision for them great things, like lucrative careers, high-standard academic achievements, and maybe even stardom. And so we push our kids to work hard, but often what truly makes them happy are great things in small packages. It’s the simple yet profound significance of the words and actions we choose to use around them. It’s not the pressure we put on them, it’s the confidence we instill in them that will help our kids succeed and find happiness.
Here are a 6 ways you can make your kids happier:
1. Take Weighty Discussions and Adult Arguments Elsewhere
Kids absorb everything—including your words, though they don’t always understand their definitions. But they do know how to translate angry tones and nonverbal gestures and facial expressions. Not knowing how to handle adult problems can leave them feeling insecure and worried. Keep the stuff that is too big just yet for their comprehension under wraps.
2. Don’t Compare Them to Others
3. Teach Them the Value of Negative Emotions
Being angry or sad isn’t wrong. What’s wrong is letting those emotions control you or your body, i.e. hitting, name-calling, etc. Don’t punish negative emotions. Instead, teach your child how to appropriately handle their negative emotions. Really drive the point home by modeling good behavior. Feel to get angry in front of your child. If someone cuts you off in traffic, say, “I am so angry right now! See? Mom gets angry sometimes, too! And it’s okay to be angry.”